Thursday, 30 January 2014

Here's the thing...

The sad truth about caring about another person is that somewhere down the line they will hurt you. It might not be a broken heart or a stab in the back but people, they will make you frown or shed a tear at some point in time.

It's become, as I've learnt, a fact of life.

I've come to realise it's because we as humans are caring creatures. We invest. We invest everything into everything. We have super high expectations of life and of the people around us and when they fail (as all humans do) we jump to judgmental conclusions and 'hate' on them for hurting us without giving them a fair trial. We talk about them behind their back, we transform from nice, gentle beings to angry savages seeking revenge and justice...and for what? Why do we always do this?

Self-satisfaction? Selfishness? Perhaps.

We can't handle the idea of someone hurting us or life turning us down from our dreams so we try to get back at life and the people that hurt us but in the end, we all know, nothing is to be accomplished from that. In the end we will probably wind up less happy and more anxious.

Maybe, just maybe we need to take a step back.

I think the first step is to embrace the pain. If life fails you then acknowledge that said life has failed you. You can't change what has happened (or hasn't happened), all you can do is move forward.

Secondly, don't seek justice or revenge. Making others feel bad or putting yourself before others isn't going to do anything except make you a bad person. I would suggest finding ways to empower others, don't use social media as a way of bragging, use it to encourage and love others. There is no better feeling than making someone else feel good.

Thirdly, find the silver lining and move on. Don't let the bad things that happen to you define you and turn you into a insecure, timid creature. Turn the hardships into opportunities to make changes, to seek new beginnings, to start something new. Figure out your emotions and try and work out why you are feeling so crap and fix that problem, either by yourself, with some chocolate, with a best friend or even a vacation. Use this as an opportunity rather than a misfortune. It will make you feel a lot better, I guarantee you.

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.....and here ends my little rant that seems directed at all of you but really was just a little pep talk for myself. Sometimes we need to pretend we're inspirational speakers to really see the light in some situations. Sorry if none of it really made sense.

14 comments:

  1. no, this really makes sense. i think it's true. because, as a person, i know i've let someone else who cares about me down at some point too. you pointed it out perfectly

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  2. Exactly what I needed to hear today!! Thank you!!

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  3. This so true. Definitely something I needed to hear

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  4. Sam you're such a wonderful person. Regardless of who this is directed at, your words hold infinite truth. I wish I had my values altogether, just like you. You're an inspiration and I hope you know that. :)

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    1. Rachel, yours words are beautiful but so not necessary. I am far from having my values altogether. I wish I did, however I'm very happy I can be a source of encouragement to you. You are such a wonderful person

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  5. What you said makes perfect sense. It took me a long time to accept that people that I care about will hurt me an I needed to accept that pain happens and to not let them define me. I've recently started trying to turn my hardships into new beginnings and a chance to start something new and I feel way better on than I did before. :)

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  6. Boy, I really do hope you're okay Sam. I hate to point out the obvious here, but it really does suck being sad. I can relate in that department. Things haven't been really looking up for me either, but all in all I really do hope everything will slowly heal itself, and soon enough you're yourself again. But for now, take your time and let yourself heal.

    Just know that we're all here for you, every step of the way!

    Keep your chin up, beautiful girl! x

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    1. Wow you surely do make me happy. I love how we have never met but you still make me so much better compared to some of the people around me. Thanks girl! Hope you feel better soon too x

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  7. Being cheated, being isolated, having no clues, having problems with everything, and the only place to vent all this angst is your mind! Pep talk's good, really, I hope everything's good Sam :)

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  8. This is beautiful. I seriously needed to hear this. Thanks you.

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  9. beautiful post, Samantha. And something that I read at just the right time!

    Hannah x

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  10. I love this Sam. Its embracing the pain is so hard sometimes but it can be so beautiful as well. And i agree sometimes we need to pretend we are inspirational speakers to see the light in situations :)
    -Diana
    Yeesdear Blog

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  11. Beautiful words! I really enjoy these thoughts.

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  12. Sam, you are such a beautiful human being. Like truly reflective and caring and aware that as humans we are all imperfect and that is how it should be. Everything you've written is very wise, we all have days like this but not all of us learn from them in such a constructive way.

    Lots of love xo

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