Monday, 12 May 2014

It's been a while

^^ mmm look that lovely Sydney water... :-|

It's been a while since I blogged. A week. To some people this might seem like forever, for others its normal or perhaps even too soon. Regardless of what is right or wrong in terms of a blog schedule, I feel sad that I couldn't blog all week. 

The reasons were various. Somedays I was just too busy and then sometimes when I did find time, I wasn't motivated or I didn't have anything to blog about. Life last week was somewhat uneventful and I didn't really want to bore you with those details.

On Saturday though, I forced myself to go outside and take a breath. I left the editing at home, and drove to the water with Stephen. We had both woken up on the wrong side of the bed that morning. Our tired souls made us both a little snappy and we ended up in a bit of a 'blah' situation. So we drove to the pier and we just sat there. We didn't talk, we didn't hold hands. There seemed to be miles between us.

But we were okay with that. We were spending our time silently praying and healing our hearts, putting our pain and our stresses onto the Lord and letting Him wash us clean from negative thoughts. We both sat there, by the pier, watching the boats come in and out, and in an odd way we watched our negative energy sail away from our bodies too. The sun then washed over us and we felt warm again.

Sometimes it's okay to be angry or sad or 'blah' for no reason whatsoever. It's normal. It's human. What we need to do though is embrace the mood we are in and let it not take control. We have to acknowledge it and work with it, changing its form and turning it into something good. Stephen and I don't like to dwell on each other's negative energy. It's not healthy. Rather we work on trying to fix it and transform it into good. Sometimes that means just sitting with each other in silence while we let the thoughts escape, sometimes that means talking about it until 2am in the morning and sometimes it means we just need to or eat a tub of Ben & Jerry's ice-cream ;)

What do you do to help cure the negative rut? 

22 comments:

  1. First of all. You guys are so sweet. Ice cream and 2am chats heal all things, like time. And girl. I just make a list of all the things I'm thankful for until I get so annoyed at myself that I stop being melancholy and start being happy for all that I have.

    Love your heart.

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    1. I love your thankfulness thursday posts! they really are an eye opener to me and a great reminder to be appreciative of the little things

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  2. These photos are beautiful!

    I understand the "negative rut" feeling. I went through a big season of negativity a few months ago and I just had to continue to "preach to myself" and quote scripture to myself so negative thoughts don't consume me.

    Thanks for sharing-I feel like negative ruts are more common than people lead on (especially in the blogging world!)

    -Courtney

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  3. those photos though!!

    they look amazing and i am wishing i was at a harbor right now.

    when i'm grumpy i take myself for a drive with the windows down and let the wind take it while it blows. those drives are my best talks with Jesus.

    you are a beautiful soul. thanks for being to honest.

    xoxo

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    1. Driving with Jesus - something I am looking forward to now that I have my license :)

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  4. Aw, Sam. Firstly I would like to say that I hope everything's okay now with the 'blah' situation as you called it.

    And secondly, I would like to share that I feel the same almost always. Either I'm too busy to post, or I am not motivated, nor do I have anything to post. Nevertheless, I am glad you did, and I missed you (even if it was a week!).

    Don't ever feel pressured into making a post. You post when you're good and ready to! :)

    Love you girl x

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    1. Thanks girl! It's good to know I'm not alone.

      I hope you're enjoying your new vision for your blog. I've been loving it so far x

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  5. these photos are stunning, really great! good for you for taking the time off. the readers will be here when you get back but sometimes it's good to step away. Ben & Jerry's cures all. ;)

    www.currenttempo.com

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  6. I love being by the water! this photos are fantastic!

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  7. Love this, very true and always important to work it out in some way or other, your ways are sweet btw :)

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  8. This is such a lovely post, thank you so much for sharing. I need to take on board this advice, it can be tricky to not let a mood take over sometimes!

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  9. 1. Those photos are beautiful.
    2. You are beautiful.
    3. I am jealous you pull of hats so well.
    4. I hope that today is better then yesterday and I am praying for you dear friend. "The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. The Lord is my portion, says my soul, therefore I will hope in him." Lamentations 3:22-24

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    1. Jessi. Thank you. That's all I can really say.

      I love that we can share Scripture with each other <3

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  10. I am LOVING your honesty in your posts recently. Your photos are GORGEOUS (as per usual) and this is so true, we can't expect to spend so much time with one person and not end up in a tizz from time to time. I think the way you deal with it is the most important thing. We always try to end any difficult coversation by 9.30 otherwise we end up going round and round and round in tired circles! Wish we had a pier to sit on... xoxo

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    1. Yeh we're a bit like that too! On one hand I don't like to go to bed angry or upset but at the same time, staying up too late doesn't really get anywhere either. Sometimes sleep can cure a mind.
      p.s. thanks for all the loving recently too!

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  11. Samantha, I've just found your blog and I love it. These photos are amazing. The sky looks so beautiful. I'm quiet jealous because the sky has been so grey here all day :(

    Sinead - sineaddreamingagain.blogspot.ie

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  12. I love your blog Sam! Is it okay for me to call you that? :) I found you through Emma of the Earth Through a Lens. She's right you have an awesome blog and your photography is so good! This is the first post I've read and I must say I am already enjoying myself.

    Whenever I need to churn out negative energy I do quite a number of stuff: listen to music, write, doodle, read blogs, read books, eat ice cream, stare blankly at a star filled sky or sit out in the garden to enjoy the view.

    Lovelots, Anne's Scribbles and Doodles ♥

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    1. I'm so glad you're loving it Anne! It's wonderful to have you here, in my space. I love making new friends and meeting new people :)

      Staring blankly at a star filled sky is probably one of my favourite things to do. Not even joking - it is so beautifully relaxing x

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  13. This is such a real post Sam, and so beautiful because of it.

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  14. I'm glad you guys were able to just sit in silence and feel better. And these are some really beautiful thoughts! To shake negativity, I usually go for a run or walk, or write songs.

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  15. I totally understand the need for a break sometimes. Stepping back and just taking a minute. Can I just say I find it beautiful that even when you & your husband are in a bad mood, you guys are blah together. I mean I really don't know much about relationships but I think that says something really special. :)
    A lot of times when negativity just kind of surrounds your heart for little or no reason, I find that just doing nothing (or rather nothing substantial) like eating junk food, watching terrible movies gets your mind off things & helps you forget all about why you were upset, for no reason...haha did that make any sense? I hope it did! :D

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    1. hehe I wish he was my husband, but God doesn't have that planned for us just yet. Maybe soon ;)

      and it made perfect sense! terrible movies are actually the best sometimes. When I was down once, I sat down with a packet of Doritos and watched Sharnado by myself. Best afternoon ever!

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