The sad truth about caring about another person is that somewhere down the line they will hurt you. It might not be a broken heart or a stab in the back but people, they will make you frown or shed a tear at some point in time.
It's become, as I've learnt, a fact of life.
I've come to realise it's because we as humans are caring creatures. We invest. We invest everything into everything. We have super high expectations of life and of the people around us and when they fail (as all humans do) we jump to judgmental conclusions and 'hate' on them for hurting us without giving them a fair trial. We talk about them behind their back, we transform from nice, gentle beings to angry savages seeking revenge and justice...and for what? Why do we always do this?
Self-satisfaction? Selfishness? Perhaps.
We can't handle the idea of someone hurting us or life turning us down from our dreams so we try to get back at life and the people that hurt us but in the end, we all know, nothing is to be accomplished from that. In the end we will probably wind up less happy and more anxious.
Maybe, just maybe we need to take a step back.
I think the first step is to embrace the pain. If life fails you then acknowledge that said life has failed you. You can't change what has happened (or hasn't happened), all you can do is move forward.
Secondly, don't seek justice or revenge. Making others feel bad or putting yourself before others isn't going to do anything except make you a bad person. I would suggest finding ways to empower others, don't use social media as a way of bragging, use it to encourage and love others. There is no better feeling than making someone else feel good.
Thirdly, find the silver lining and move on. Don't let the bad things that happen to you define you and turn you into a insecure, timid creature. Turn the hardships into opportunities to make changes, to seek new beginnings, to start something new. Figure out your emotions and try and work out why you are feeling so crap and fix that problem, either by yourself, with some chocolate, with a best friend or even a vacation. Use this as an opportunity rather than a misfortune. It will make you feel a lot better, I guarantee you.
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.....and here ends my little rant that seems directed at all of you but really was just a little pep talk for myself. Sometimes we need to pretend we're inspirational speakers to really see the light in some situations. Sorry if none of it really made sense.